Focus on the journey, not the achievement. What purpose or value does your work and your passion have for other people? If you don’t know, find out.Ģ3. Know when and how to say “no.” That way, you’ll feel more joy when you say “yes.”Ģ2. The outside tends to match the inside.Ģ1. The state of your bed is the state of your head. Create times and places in your life every single day where you are free from technology.Ģ0. If a thought is stressing you out, it is probably untrue.ġ9. Train your brain to see the positive in your life by keeping a gratitude journal.ġ8. This is the way to know who you are and what you want.ġ7. Your emotions are how your heart talks to you, how it tells you what choices to make. But to honestly feel the positive things in life-to truly feel love, or joy, or profound gratitude-we must also let ourselves feel fear, and grief, and frustration. When we feel stressed out (or sad, or disappointed), we live in a world that offers many ways to numb those negative feelings-to not really feel them. You won’t need so much willpower that way.ġ6. "She gave better advice to her friends at graduation than I provide in this article," says Christine.ġ5. High heels are the cigarettes of the future they are bad for your health and they get you in the habit of ignoring pain in order to look good to others, which is never a good idea.Ĭhristine's daughter Fiona giving her 8th grade commencement talk. Don’t wear uncomfortable shoes, even if everyone else is doing it. If you notice that you are comparing yourself to others, try asking yourself these questions: What do I appreciate about those people? How can I connect with or learn from them? How can I add value to their lives?ġ4. When we get caught in a web of thinking that we are better or worse than others, we usually end up depressed, anxious, and insecure. Try to connect with people in your first interaction, to make them feel your delight in them (even if you are scared to death).ġ2. Chat with people in elevators and in line at the store. Even if you didn’t intend to hurt that person, or you think they are over-reacting.ġ0. Your relationships with your family and closest friends are always more important than any achievement. Whatever you’re afraid of-that is the very thing you should try to do.”Ĩ. As Maria Shriver wrote in And One More Thing Before You Go, often “anxiety is a glimpse of your own daring. (Like when we are afraid of looking stupid and so don’t ask an important question.) Ignore your hesitation. Not-helpful fear, on the other hand, makes us hesitate rather than bolt. When you feel legitimate fear, run like the wind. Legitimate fear, like terror in the presence of a dangerous person, makes us want to get the heck out of whatever situation we are in. Know the difference between legitimate and not-helpful fear. Learn how to read your “ body compass.”ħ. Our unconscious mind is our best source of intelligence, but it communicates through intuition and bodily sensations, not words. You’ll know when something isn’t right for you because you’ll feel it in your body. Accept that well-meaning and loving people will sometimes give you bad advice. Other people offer us a different view we need their broader perspective to grow and improve.Ħ. Invite constructive criticism from the people who want the best for you. Especially ignore critics who seem delighted when you stumble.ĥ. Another person’s opinion of you is their business, not yours. Let go of what other people think of you. I promise you: Pretending will rob you of joy.Ĥ. It is better to be yourself and risk having people not like you than to suffer the stress and tension that comes from pretending to be someone you’re not, or professing to like something that you don’t. Do not ever waiver from this white lies and false smiles quickly snowball into a life lived out of alignment. Do the right thing even when the right thing is hard. Let yourself truly notice when other people are suffering. Show love and respect to others this monthĢ.Tolerate discomfort.
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